Originally, God made men and women to be equal. So the people who "always say 'man and woman' were created equal" are right. It is also correct that because of sin and imperfection, that is no longer the case. After sin, women were given two curses (according to Genesis 3:16):
- Pain with childbirth
- Superiority of husband
From that time onward, women have always had a slightly lower status because Eve proved that we can't be left alone (and whether we wish to believe that or not, it is true).
However, we are all still equal in worth. God does not change His behavior based on the gender He is working with. Though we see that the majority of the Bible is focused on men due to culture, there were definitely women worth mentioning-- Rahab, Ruth, Esther, Phoebe, Chloe, Miriam, Zipporah, Lydia, the female followers of Jesus, etc. And I'm quite sure that God used women in other scenarios, too, who simply were not mentioned, just as there are some males who played active roles but were not mentioned.
Lastly, though in a marital relationship the husband has superiority, they are still both equal (difficult concept, yes, but entirely infallible because it's in God's Word).
- Ephesians 5:22-29 shows that the superiority of the husband does not give way to abuse or arrogance, while explaining why wives should respect their husbands:
- 1 Corinthians 7:4 states the equality of married couples:
I will admit that as a race, humans have distorted God's plan-- both plan A and plan B. Now we have sexism, feminists movements, and so forth. If we would all just realize that both and female are made in the likeness of the Almighty, and that He has put into motion plans that will benefit us in the long run, we would be better off.