One who holds the elements of true love (based on 1 Corinthians 13 and 1 John 4) is: Patient Kind Non-envious  Humble Couth (not obnoxious or obsessed) Unselfish/Servile Even-tempered Pure-minded Righteous-loving Honest Unfearing Perfect (in God alone) Eternal God--  all good and perfect relationships of any sort include God Lust, my friend, is the opposite of these characteristics:  Impatience Meanness Envy/Competition Arrogance Obsession Selfishness Bad Temper Lewd Mind Love of Wrong-doing Deceit Fear Imperfection/Self-consciousness Temporary No Divine Strength